Welcome guest author Margie Lawson!
Margie is a psychotherapist, writer, and international presenter. She has applied her psychological expertise to dissect and analyze over a thousand novels. A former university professor, Margie taught psychology and communication courses at the undergraduate, graduate, and doctoral levels. Her resume includes clinical trainer, professor, director of a counseling center, hypnotherapist, and trauma specialist. Her psychologically-anchored Deep Editing tools are used by all writers, from newbies to NYT Bestsellers. She teaches writers how to edit for psychological power, how to hook the reader viscerally, how to create a page-turner. In the last five years, Margie presented over fifty full day Master Classes in the U.S., Canada, Australia, and New Zealand. She also offers intense three-day Immersion Master Classes on Deep Editing from her home. She lives in a log home on a mountain-top west of Denver.
Let's listen to some words of writerly advice from Margie!
By Margie Lawson
Who controls your moods? Who controls your life? Your mood, and life, is comprised of what you do each day, each hour, each minute. How you choose to live your life is determined by how you choose to live each minute. What moods do you choose? Are you riding the horse, or LETTING the horse ride you?
At times, we all have stress. We all get hit with bleak times – and black times. Times of seemingly insurmountable loss and depression, trauma and fear. Many of my clients attribute their negative moods to external causes. They apply an external locus of control. They allow the horse of life to ride them. They focus on the negatives. They feed their depression. They complain. They are miserable. They make people around them miserable.
Some writers buy into that external locus of control piece. They relinquish control of their moods to things they cannot control.
~ Writers cannot control getting an agent.
~ Writers cannot control getting a contract.
~Writer cannot control getting on a bestseller list.
Writers can control some aspects of their moods. When a disappointment hits, they can allow themselves to feel sad for a short time and kick themselves out of that pity pit by making plans to move forward and putting their plans into action. A Change Coach (and Career Coach) can be an incredible resource for a writer who is emotionally whomped. Change Coaches are also top-of-the-heap butt-kickers.
If you’ve taken my Defeat Self-Defeating Behaviors course (offered on-line in January), you know a Change Coach can help a writer jettison the junk in their emotional trunk. If a writer can’t jettison it all, a Change Coach can help the writer box it, duct-tape it, and anchor it in the trunk. No more distractions from annoying banging and clanging. The writer’s focus shifts from lamenting to implementing.
Do what you need to do to take charge of your moods. Don’t let the horse of life ride you.
I idolize people who grab hold the reins, smile, and ride their horse of life through the worst of times. When you meet or read about someone whose life is loaded with cosmic-careening challenges . . . aren’t you awed? How many of us could graduate from Radcliffe—have twelve books published—get elected to the National Women’s Hall of Fame—do all that and more---if we were blind, deaf, and mute like Helen Keller? Writers can learn from Helen Keller’s grace, perseverance, and courage. When we feel emotionally challenged, we can put energy into taking charge of our moods.
Check out these quotes from Helen Keller.
- We can do anything we want to if we stick to it long enough.
- The only thing worse than being blind is having sight, but no vision.
- College isn’t the place to go for ideas.
- When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened.
- Life is either a great adventure or nothing.
- What I am looking for is not out there, it is within me.
- Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.
- One cannot consent to creep when one has an impulse to soar.
Did any of Helen Keller’s quotes speak to you? What can you do to take charge of your mood today? This week? Next week? I will respond to posts several times today and this evening. Anyone who posts a comment TODAY has a chance to WIN a LECTURE PACKET from one of my on-line classes. I will award a Lecture Packet to one of every 25 people who post today.
1. Defeat Self-Defeating Behaviors
2. Empowering Characters' Emotions
3. Deep Editing: The EDITS System, Rhetorical Devices, and More
4. Digging Deep Into the EDITS System
5. Writing Body Language and Dialogue Cues Like a Psychologist
6. Powering Up Body Language in Real Life: Projecting a Professional Persona When Pitching and Presenting
I’ll post the LECTURE PACKET WINNERS tonight, at 8:00PM Mountain Time.
In January, I’m teaching Defeat Self-Defeating Behaviors, a power-packed on-line course that helps writers access their strengths—and empower creativity and productivity. Lectures from each of my on-line courses are offered as Lecture Packets through PayPal from my web site. Lecture Packets are $22; I donate $5 per Lecture Packet for ALS (my cousin).
Please visit www.MargieLawson.com and click on Lecture Packets to read the course descriptions. If you’re interested in a sample of deep editing, I include Deep Editing Analyses in each issue of my monthly newsletter. To receive my newsletter, click on SUBSCRIBE on the home page of my web site, www.MargieLawson.com
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Thanks for an insightful and inspiring article, Margie! Please visit Margie's web site to learn more about her newsletter, on-line courses, presentation schedule, and Immersion Master Classes, www.MargieLawson.com. If you would like to contact Margie about presenting a full day Master Class to your group, e-mail her: Margie@MargieLawson.com.